You have probably been there: you get all excited about
interracial dating and then your friends/ parents/ colleagues/ you-name-it
start telling you about all the challenges that interracial couples face. Yes,
if you are a white woman and want to date black men, you need to be
aware that there are differences between your cultures. You not only will have
a different skin color, but also possibly a different religion, different
cultural background and even different food preferences. But why is this
supposed to be a bad thing? Diversity is what makes life interesting and whitewomen seeking black men -and the other way around- know that opening up to
other cultures can lead you to a whole new universe.
Yes, but can I have a long term relationship when dating
outside my race? I hear you ask. Of course you can! But you need to want it, in
order to achieve it. If you are fascinated by a black guy, just because he
seems exotic to you, and you decide to have a one-night-stand with him, it is
quite unlikely that it will become a long term loving relationship. This is why
it is important to set your priorities straight and know what you are looking
for. There are many interracial couples out there, who made it work. Their
secret? They had more in common than just curiosity for the other persons race.
Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom
She is a model, TV personality, businesswoman, actress,
fashion designer and many more, which we do not need to list. And she is white.
He is a professional basketball player and he last played with the Los Angeles
Clippers. And he is black. They are both famous and very busy, which is enough
to put strain on a relationship. On top of it, they have been trying
unsuccessfully to become parents, which brought them closer, instead of
alienating them. They are trying to save time for each other and go on romantic
dates, to keep the spark alive.
Kelly Ripa and Marc Consuelos
She is a white American actress and TV presenter, best known
for her show “Live! With Kelly and Michael” and her role in the “Hope and
Faith” sitcom. He is a Mexican-Italian actor who has stared in a series of
films and television shows including “My Super Ex Girlfriend”, “Cop Out”,
“Missing”, “All my children”. He has also done many guest appearances. Ripa and
Consuelos own Milojo, a New York based production company. They have three
children together and they must be doing something right since they are so
successful business and life partners, despite the differences in their racial
background.
Sophia Adella Luke and Derek Luke
The actors have been happily married for fifteen years. She
is best known for “Spartan”, “Knock Out” and “Lying in Wait”. He is best known
for “Antwone Fisher”, “Captain America: The first Avenger” and “Glory Road”.
She is white and he is a black American, born in New Jersey. Even though they
both work in the showbiz and temptation is all around, they stick with each
other.
Indina Menzel and Taye Diggs
She was born in New York and is of Jewish and Russian
heritage. An actress, singer and songwriter, she is best known for her roles in
“Enchanted”, “Rent” and “Beowulf”. He is also a theater and screen actor. He
was born in Newark, grew up in Rochester and is African American. He is best
known for “Chicago”, “Private Practice” and “Equilibrium”. They first met in
1995, got married in 2003 and have a son who was born in 2009. Here is to
another happy interracial family!
Sara Kapfer and Cuba Gooding Jr.
These two are high school sweethearts! She is white, he is
black. Gooding's father abandoned the family when Gooding was about four years
old, so he grew with his mother and siblings. Both his parents were singers.
Gooding Junior decided to create a much more stable environment for his own
kids and he found that choosing a white partner was not an added challenge, so
in 1994 he married Kapfer. They are still together and have three children.
Of course these are just examples of white women datingblack men. And we didn't even put
Seal and Heidi Klum in the list, because they split after seven years of
marriage. But they still managed to keep a long term relationship! And there
are many more examples of white men dating or being married to black women,
like David Bowie and Iman, Robert De Niro and Grace Hightower and Mellody
Hobson and George Lucas. So the next time a friend or family member questions
your decision to date outside your race, you can point out that many of their
favorite celebrities have made the same choice as you and did not regret it!
